2/22/24 I Deserve This!

Alex did one very important thing for me. He showed me that not only do I want more than what I have now, but that I deserve more than what I have now, in terms of a relationship. Now granted it did not work out, but here was this guy who I got along with, had amazing chemistry with and he accepted what I did. I want that again and I deserve that. I’ve lost …

2/13/24 Just a Thought

I’ve been publishing these psychological “hacks“ for a while now, because I find them fascinating. Maybe it’s because I have a background in something akin to psychology.  But I want to add one more psychological factoid to the ones I’ve already published. I believe when women like a man, they think about making love to them. But if a woman doesn’t like you, there’s no way in hell she is ever going to go there. …

Blogs for 2/12/24

2/12/24 Needing Some Help I just got a new bedframe that I need to put together and I can’t do it by myself. I’m offering an hour long session for helping me with my bedframe. I’d like to get this done soon so please contact me if you’re interested. 2/12/24 What are some psychology facts about love? If you’re close to anyone, when you read their texts, you can hear their voice in your head. …

2/10/24 Dating Dealbreakers

Bad teeth, no smile Grossly overweight Downright ugly Young kids that they have halftime Too many animals Alcoholic/workaholic Stupid or no education Overly silly Low paying job/bankruptcy Moving too slow or too fast Lives too far away Doesn’t have the same interests as me Ultra conservative Too short or too tall Is not tolerant of my job Allergic to cats No sense of humor

Blogs (5) for 2/8/24

2/8/24 Alex Well, you might have noticed if you read my blogs regularly that I took all the blogs down about Alex. I did this because I didn’t want to put out that energy to the universe and I felt that they were depressing blogs that I didn’t really want anybody else reading. I have since found out that he does not want a relationship or a friendship with me. He has shown me this …

Blogs for 1/28/24

1/28/24 I Blame Myself This is a blog about how I blame myself. I’m not sure why I do this, except that I know it is easier to forgive myself sometimes than it is to forgive the person who transgressed against me. And I’m not really one to get into the blame game. But in all actuality, I should be trying to forgive the other person, and not even blame myself. Now you may be …

1/26/24 Single Again

Well, I was definitely spot on when it came to my perceptions of how AA would be. It is hugely frowned upon to be in a relationship the first year, so my person is not my person anymore. At least not for right now and not for the next year. We’re going to try to stay friends so we’ll see how that goes. He’s going to be very busy with his sobriety and AA and …

1/19/24 Alex

Do you believe in second chances? I do. Maybe even third chances knowing that three times is a charm. But I digress. This blog is about Alex and what has transpired since my last blog about Alex. Shortly after I wrote that blog, he went to the hospital to detox. He feels that he does not have another detox in him and, as such, he is going into AA and has two sponsors already plus …

1/10/24 The Other Shoe Dropped

I’m crying as I write this. I’ve never cried as I write a blog. But I think I’m entitled to, because you see, I found out today that Alex is an alcoholic. I knew it was too good to be true. I knew in my heart of hearts that I was going to find out something that didn’t gel with the rest of him. Maybe it was just too good, too easy and too sweet. …

Blogs for 12/17/23

12/17/23 No More Hawaii Man I don’t know what to say. I met a man in Hawaii two years ago and we have kept in touch the entire time. We’ve gotten very close and I even told him I loved him. We were planning to meet in Las Vegas this next May and spend four days together at the Wynn hotel. About two weeks ago, he breaks it off. I’m still not entirely sure why, …

10/19/23 $800 a month

A guy recently got in touch with me through my website wanting to date me and take me away from the life that I live. So upfront, I suggested that I would need $800 a month to live on.  He balked. But not really right away. He kind of lead me on to believe he would do this and I didn’t think $800 a month was that much to ask for but I guess it …

10/11/23 Funny Dating Stories

10/11/23 Funny Dating Stories #1 So I’m on POF and I’m getting a lot of interest. This one guy gets in touch with me. He’s really cute and as we talk, he seems really nice. Everything is going swimmingly and I’m feeling like I might’ve found the right person. Then the first shoe drops . He has one day off, Mondays, and he’s on call. He has to go in to handle something on his …

8/6/23 Ghosting

I don’t know about you, but I have been ghosted so many times that I’ve come to believe it is what it is. There’s nothing I can do about it so I better just get over it. I had a really good client who was a weekly regular and all of a sudden a year ago or maybe two, he didn’t ever call me again. Until today. And now I have to decide do I …