Blogs for 1/23/26

1/23/26 Update on Me

Well, I’m still here in St. Louis.

It’s been about eight months now, and I’ve learned a lot about this city in that time—most of it good, though not all of it. I feel like I’ve finally settled into what my business here is going to look like. Honestly, it doesn’t feel all that different from what I had in Kansas City.

I do have more no-shows here, and I’m still working on building a stronger base of regulars. That said, the regulars I do have are prime.

I sometimes wonder if there aren’t a couple of strikes against me. St. Louis seems to favor a younger escort in general, and I say that because there simply aren’t many women over 50 working here. In a way, that makes me a novelty—a bit of a lark—but I also think it takes some getting used to, and maybe a little gumption, for a man to even come see me in the first place.

That said, I still attract a wide audience and a really nice array of men. I’ve never felt safer—and that’s probably helped by the fact that I’ve never lived in such a nice house before. I’ve also become much more particular about who I see, when I see them, and where I see them. I haven’t done a single outcall since moving here, and I’m not complaining one bit. If things ever slow down, I know I may need to add that back into my repertoire—but for now, it’s hard to complain when I’m making good money seeing men I genuinely enjoy.

1/23/26 ED and Expectations

I see a lot of men with ED. A lot. Given that most of my appointments are with men over 50, you could probably say I specialize in it—whether I intended to or not.

ED is often caused by medication: blood pressure meds, diabetes meds, antidepressants. These can make it difficult to get hard, stay hard, or even have an orgasm at all. I talk about this almost every year because it’s important, and this year I want to focus specifically on expectations—what men with ED expect, and what they should expect.

It is not reasonable to think you’re going to get hard and stay hard, especially while using a condom. I rarely—if ever—see that happen. When I ask men with ED if they can get hard and stay hard, the answer is no about 95% of the time. So we move on to the next option: pumping.

Sometimes pumping works beautifully. Other times, it doesn’t work at all. If you don’t have good blood flow to begin with—the very thing that creates an erection—no amount of pumping is going to fix that. Pumps are helpful, but they are not foolproof.

At that point, I’m usually hoping you’ve taken a prescription pill about 30 minutes before seeing me—and taken the right amount. Not cutting pills in half. Sometimes that helps. Sometimes it doesn’t. Those pills aren’t foolproof either.

And then we’re left with either a blowjob or a handjob. A blowjob is great—if you’re one of the roughly 50% of men who can actually come that way. But if you’re part of the other 50% who can’t, then we’re down to a handjob. And let’s be honest: who really wants to pay that kind of money for a handjob?

As you might imagine, I often don’t see these men again. Sometimes I’ll see them a second time after they’ve gotten themselves on medication. But if that still doesn’t work, there usually isn’t a third visit. Every escort should understand this going into the business.

What I find both interesting and a little comical is how many men tell me they no longer have sex at home and are deeply upset about it—while being unable to perform themselves. How can you expect a woman to want sex with you if you can’t participate? I realize that ED isn’t usually the reason women stop having sex, but honestly, I wouldn’t blame them if it were. I think many of you would probably agree.

To end this, I want to be very clear: none of this is my fault. And this is a gentle warning to men to manage their expectations—especially when seeing an escort, where nerves are already high. ED isn’t the only reason men don’t get hard. Any man who is anxious as hell can struggle too.

I’m telling you this because it’s the truth.

My occupation is not easy.