4/5/25  Men Who Get Discouraged

I hate that I even have to write this blog, but it happens so often in my practice that I feel like I need to talk about it.

When men can’t perform the way they think they should, they get very discouraged. And once that discouragement sets in, it’s like a switch flips—suddenly, the session feels over. There’s not much I can do at that point to bring things back. The best I can offer is a warm, relaxing massage and my signature back tickle.

It may not be what they came for, but it’s still something special. Honestly, my back tickle is an experience in and of itself—most people have never had anything like it. But I know that’s not what’s on their mind when they book the appointment.

Still, I want to be clear: it’s not my fault, and it’s not theirs either. It’s almost always due to nerves, ED, or both. Erectile dysfunction can start around age 48, and by the late 50s, it’s incredibly common. There are lots of things that can help with ED, but that’s not what this blog is about.

What I want to say is: it’s normal to feel discouraged the first time you see an escort. It’s nerve-racking! I do my best to help you feel calm and comfortable, but sometimes it’s just hard to relax—especially when you’re putting pressure on yourself.

And I really believe that if you’re not going to feel comfortable with me, you’re probably not going to feel comfortable with anyone. That’s why I always say: find someone you like and stick with them. It’s easier, safer, and just makes everything better.

I’ve had a few appointments lately where I know the client left feeling disappointed. Mostly disappointed in themselves, but maybe a little in me, too. And that hurts. I’m disappointed, too—mostly because I know I probably won’t see them again. And even though I did everything I could, it still feels like I failed.

But I know I didn’t. And still… it stings.

I guess it just is what it is.