3/28/25 Rates and Dates

It’s funny to think about how this all started for me back in 2015, in Topeka, Kansas. At the time, I charged $60 for a half hour and $100 for a full hour—and I actually did pretty well with that. Even in Topeka, I was seeing a decent number of clients. But when I raised my rates to $75 and $125, I lost almost all of my business. So I did the smart thing: I moved to Kansas City.

When I first got to Kansas City, I kept the same rates—and, oh boy, I was seeing seven people a day. That pace got me a reputation as high-volume, and I really didn’t like that. So I bumped up my rates to $100 for a half hour and $150 for an hour. That helped. I felt better about the work and who I was seeing.

As I got more popular, I raised my rates again—to $100/$175, and not long after that, $100/$180. I kept those rates throughout my time in Raytown in 2018. When I moved to my current place, I went up again to $120/$200, and stayed there for a solid five years. Then in February 2024, I made another adjustment: $120/$220. And that’s where I am today.

I feel my rates are more than fair—for who I am, what I offer, how I look, and how I do things. Lately, my ad has been bringing in new people, and I’m realizing just how unique I am in this industry. A lot of men tell me they’ve never experienced anything like what I offer. Certainly not with an escort.

Recently, I met with another provider who advertises on Tryst.link. She charges $300 an hour but only makes about a third of what I do, so she reached out for advice. I suggested she lower her donation. Not to be harsh, but she’s 46—not that it’s old, but in this business, it matters—and she isn’t particularly striking. She wears too much makeup, and her apartment was small, cluttered, and honestly, kind of a mess. But that’s not unusual in this field. A lot of providers are hot messes, unfortunately.

That said, she’s not on drugs, she’s sweet, and she’s cute underneath all that makeup. She’s also very accommodating. But a lot of her choices are driven by fear—especially living on the Kansas side, where law enforcement can be intense. She hasn’t been busted since 2020, and I tried to reassure her that simply posting an ad isn’t what gets you busted. It doesn’t work that way. Her issue was putting sex and money in the same text message—you just can’t do that.

She also told me you can’t be paid cash for anything in Overland Park, which I honestly find ridiculous. If anyone out there knows something I don’t, feel free to enlighten me.

Another thing she didn’t realize: if you say you’re available 24/7, people will assume you’re on meth. I mean, how else would you be up at 3am ready to go? Maybe I’m wrong, but I doubt it.

She also negotiated her rate with almost everyone, which I think is a mistake. If you set a rate, stick to it. Specials are one thing, but constant haggling means you don’t really have a rate. Personally, I never negotiate. It’s just something I won’t do.

I told her I’d refer some people her way in the evenings, since I don’t see clients then—but that’s about the extent of it.