When women go through menopause, about 80% of them lose their libido, their sex drive. And the thought of having sex goes out of their mind and into their anxiety mode. So when you bring it up, she is most likely not gonna respond. 75% of my clients are married and not having sex at home. And the sad thing is that they don’t have intimacy either. And when I talk about intimacy, I’m NOT talking about sex. I’m talking about holding hands, kissing, sitting on the couch together, watching a movie and cuddling. I wrote a blog this year about how to remedy this so you should look down and find that blog.

Now let’s talk about medications. There are three medications that screw with sex. These are high blood pressure, diabetic medicines specifically Metformin and insulin, and finally, antidepressants. Disclaimer: I am not suggesting that you get off any of these medication‘s because of their side effects. High blood pressure medicine is going to save your life literally. And of course you can’t go off of your diabetic medicine. That’s kind of crazy to think about. And if you’re on an antidepressant, there’s probably a very good reason. So I am not suggesting that anybody take this information to mean that you need to stop taking your medication. You’re on these medications for good reasons.

And as with anything I say, take it with a grain of salt, but I have done my research. The effects of these medications also depend on how much you are taking of them. For example, if you are on a low-dose of high blood pressure medicine, it might not affect you at all. Especially if you’re under 60.

High blood pressure medicine (especially lisinopril and losartan) make it so you either can’t get hard at all or if you can get hard you cannot maintain it. And if you try to take Viagra or Cialis, the two medicines fight each other. And your high blood pressure medicine is going to win out. I hope you like oral. That’s all I’m gonna say.

Diabetic medicine pretty much makes it so that you can’t even get hard. The Biologics don’t seem to have that effect, but most people are on a biologic and Metformin and Metformin is horrible.

Antidepressants are a little bit different in that they don’t affect your ability to have an erection. What they do is typically shut down your libido so that you don’t even want sex as much as you did. They also make it very difficult to have an orgasm. It can take 30 minutes to an hour to achieve this.

So there you have it. If you have any questions, please talk to your doctor about it.

My own sister did not come out until she was 29, but this was the 70s-80s when people did not talk about being gay nearly as much as they do now.  She finally got around a group of gay women and realized this was her orientation.  She has now been with her wife for 24 years!

I’m always so complimented when a woman wants me, but alas I do not want them.