But, it is an interesting phenomenon to have been obese, and now be slim. As many of you know, it took me quite some time to realize my weight loss even after I lost the weight. It just takes the brain time to catch up with the physical. We see it when people lose limbs and have phantom pain. The pain is real, but it’s created in their brain and it took my brain about six months to wrap itself around the fact that I lost 110 pounds. I think I lost close to 90 pounds before I even bought new clothes. How pitiful is that?

Trust me when I say that I am not complaining one bit. I don’t see how anybody can lose 110 pounds and keep it off without a gastric bypass. It must take a heck of a lot of willpower and completely changing your lifestyle because the habits you have when you’re obese are definitely not the habits that you need to have to get and stay slim.

I never had those good habits and I never wanted to change my lifestyle, but I did want to lose the weight and in doing so, I did change my lifestyle. I still eat all the foods I want to eat except for the foods that I can’t eat. Truly, the amount that I eat is minuscule compared to how I used to be. My desires did not change and really my exercise habits did not change. But my stomach changed and in doing so, I had to change how much I ate and what things I ate or I was going to be in a lot of pain. I hate pain. It has taken me close to two years to figure out what I can’t eat permanently and how much I can eat at any one meal.

I have been in pretty bad stomach pain many times in the last two years. It’s really just been in the last six months that I have figured these things out and now I am staying conscious when I eat. If I zone out and eat too much, even a couple bites too much, I’m paying for it. If you’ve ever stuffed yourself so bad that you wanna throw up then you know how I feel when I eat two bites bigger than my stomach. It’s not a fun feeling. Thankfully, it does pass because you digest, but while you’re going through it, it’s not any fun.

I have to say, amazingly enough, this was one very big problem that was solved by surgery. It’s been a rough road, but I would do it all over again.

have decided to add Specific Girlfriend Services.  GFE Services will include daily emails/texts, phone calls, meet for a drink, discounts on sessions and pictures/videos customized to you!  I will have a section on my Donations Page…

4/21/24 OMG St. Louis

St. Louis never stops amazing me. Each time I go, I do better than the last time. Now, I did have three no-shows and one person threatened me, but other than that, this was the best trip I’ve ever had. I made more in two days than I make in a week and a half. But it’s not just about the money. It’s about seeing the same guys that I’ve seen in February and January and last November. I am developing a regular crowd there and I love it. I just wrote a blog about how nerve-racking it is to see new people, especially when I’m seeing so many new people in a day but now I’m not. And I just love that.  I will tell you this.  If Kansas City ever goes south, I could definitely see moving to St. Lou.

4/21/24 More Thoughts on My Gastric Bypass

It’s been a year and eight months since I got my gastric bypass. I have successfully lost 110 pounds and kept it off for six months. And I really don’t think that I’m going to regain my weight and I will tell you why. I still can only eat 4 to 6 bites at a time. And this is the most difficult part of having gotten the gastric bypass. They shrink your stomach so much that you can’t eat very much at one time and you don’t feel like eating for some time because your digestion has slowed. The problem becomes when you zone out while you’re eating and eat too much. OMG, I have never felt such pain in my stomach. And the difficulty lies in the fact that I used to eat a four course meal and now I’m lucky to eat a fourth of a course. It definitely makes going out to eat either a very slow process or a very frustrating one. If I take 30 minutes to eat my meal, I can eat more than a fourth of course. I can probably eat one course. But the food gets cold. Which, I’ve gotten used to, I have to say. 

So now you know how I maintain my weight. And on top of that, there are some days that I just don’t feel like eating. And the only thing that helps with that is to get high because marijuana numbs your stomach. It’s great for when you have the stomach flu and when you don’t feel like eating. Because it takes the pain and nausea away. I’m sure most people reading this are not feeling too bad for me. But if you saw me after I ate 10 bites instead of six, you would see someone in pretty intense pain. It seems like anytime I put food on my plate, I pretty much know I’m going to only eat half of it. Which can make for a very cheap date! I’m still really happy that I had the gastric bypass and even though I have had so many complications from it, I’m past all that and I feel like I’ve finally arrived.

I don’t tend to judge people anymore who are overweight. I simply say a little prayer to myself that they will find their way to a gastric bypass.  I bought a really cute mini dress in St. Louis and I just reveled at how adorable I looked! My sister said to me that I looked really good and I told her that I looked really good in clothes and she replied “that’s all there is at our age”! I suppose she’s somewhat right.

St. Louis never stops amazing me. Each time I go, I do better than the last time. Now, I did have three no-shows and one person threatened me, but other than that, this was the best trip I’ve ever had. I made more in two days than I make in a week and a half. But it’s not just about the money. It’s about seeing the same guys that I’ve seen in February and January and last November. I am developing a regular crowd there and I love it. I just wrote a blog about how nerve-racking it is to see new people, especially when I’m seeing so many new people in a day but now I’m not. And I just love that.

4/21/24 More Thoughts on My Gastric Bypass

It’s been a year and eight months since I got my gastric bypass. I have successfully lost 110 pounds and kept it off for six months. And I really don’t think that I’m going to regain my weight and I will tell you why. I still can only eat 4 to 6 bites at a time. And this is the most difficult part of having gotten the gastric bypass. They shrink your stomach so much that you can’t eat very much at one time and you don’t feel like eating for some time because your digestion has slowed. The problem becomes when you zone out while you’re eating and eat too much. OMG, I have never felt such pain in my stomach. And the difficulty lies in the fact that I used to eat a four course meal and now I’m lucky to eat a fourth of a course. It definitely makes going out to eat either a very slow process or a very frustrating one. If I take 30 minutes to eat my meal, I can eat more than a fourth of course. I can probably eat one course. But the food gets cold. Which, I’ve gotten used to, I have to say. 

So now you know how I maintain my weight. And on top of that, there are some days that I just don’t feel like eating. And the only thing that helps with that is to get high because marijuana numbs your stomach. It’s great for when you have the stomach flu and when you don’t feel like eating. Because it takes the pain and nausea away. I’m sure most people reading this are not feeling too bad for me. But if you saw me after I ate 10 bites instead of six, you would see someone in pretty intense pain. It seems like anytime I put food on my plate, I pretty much know I’m going to only eat half of it. Which can make for a very cheap date! I’m still really happy that I had the gastric bypass and even though I have had so many complications from it, I’m past all that and I feel like I’ve finally arrived.

I don’t tend to judge people anymore who are overweight. I simply say a little prayer to myself that they will find their way to a gastric bypass.  I bought a really cute mini dress in St. Louis and I just reveled at how adorable I looked! My sister said to me that I looked really good and I told her that I looked really good in clothes and she replied “that’s all there is at our age”! I suppose she’s somewhat right.

Well, you might have noticed if you read my blogs regularly that I took all the blogs down about Alex. I did this because I didn’t want to put out that energy to the universe and I felt that they were depressing blogs that I didn’t really want anybody else reading. I have since found out that he does not want a relationship or a friendship with me. He has shown me this through his actions. And actions speak louder than words. so we are not talking, and I doubt we ever will again. I basically got bamboozled by this guy and I learned a lot about how to approach a relationship. I will not make the same mistakes I made with him. Of course, he omitted to tell me that he had a drinking problem, and quite honestly, I don’t think there’s much you can do about a recovering alcoholic especially when they’re not even 30 days sober. I know I’m much better off for leaving this relationship. 

2/8/24 Update on my gastric bypass

I was going to entitle this blog, I Sag! But I didn’t want people to not read it! As a result of losing 110 pounds, can I just say that I look great in clothes, I am way more healthy and will probably live longer and I feel better. But, the part about looking better naked is suspect. I do sag. My boobs have lost a cup and I feel like they’re down to my bellybutton. Of course they aren’t but you know what I mean. My stomach is smaller, but it still sags. My arms sag, my thighs sag, my butt sags, even my pussy sags!  I thought about having a tummy tuck done in Mexico. A client told me that he had a gastric bypass there and it went really well and they were a very professional outfit in Cancun. That would make me a lot happier and somewhat poorer. Not sure if that’s a word. At any rate, I am who I am. My body is what it is. And when I ask clients, who have known me since I was fat, whether I look better fat or skinny, they always say skinny. Or they say they like me at both weights. Which is actually very nice to hear.

2/8/24 You Can’t Force Intimacy

Even with an escort! I was with a man last night, who was very sweet, very generous, and very married. But what creeped me out about him was that he treated me like he’d known me six months and we had been dating that long. He had no boundaries around what might be appropriate with me on our first date. He wanted me to treat him like we were boyfriend and girlfriend. Well, that was his fantasy, not mine. I suppose I have walls and boundaries set up so that I don’t feel creeped out, and most men do not do this to me. I usually have to do a little coaxing with them, but they never want to just give give give. That was what was up with this guy. I think when we were texting, I started to get the feeling of it being too soon and too much. Kind of like my last relationship. But this guy was married and it wasn’t gonna go anywhere. I certainly was not going to get into a relationship with a married man, I’ve done that and I will not go back. Horrible, horrible experience. So, in the end, I made him leave early. It wasn’t just that he creeped me out, it was more that I was exhausted, and having trouble keeping my eyes open. But even if I wasn’t exhausted, I would’ve let him leave. He gladly took the money that I offered him. I think what I’m going to take from this is to recognize through texts where a person is coming from. If I’m kind of creeped out in their texts, I’m going to be creeped out by them. It doesn’t happen often, but last night was a very good example.

2/8/24 Relationship Truths

1. If love was enough, every relationship would have a 100% success rate.

2. Bad relationships change good people.

3. Toxic is when they can’t let you go, but they can’t treat you right either.

4. Authentic love may be unconditional but it does not mean unconditional tolerance.

5. You can take your power back by letting people go.

6. The moment that you start to wonder if you deserve better, you do.

7. Sometimes rejection is redirection towards something better.

8. Healthy relationships include uncomfortable conversations.

9. Loyalty behind your back is really top tier.

10. Kindness is not flirting.

• Attention is not love.

• Silence is not anger

2/8/24 Hawaii Man is Back!

Well, it’s kind of a funny story. I blocked Ken after we “broke up“ and then later I decided to unblock him. Well, he tried to get in touch with me when I had blocked him and couldn’t figure out why I wasn’t contacting him back. And then, one day after I unblocked him, he sent me a text. And that was all she wrote. I mean we’re not back to where we were, but he did send me the most gorgeous decorated egg, and I love these. He had also sent me a gorgeous robe from the Wynn hotel. And he has been very generous with me in the past. We have talked about me going to Hawaii for another work vacation, but I’m not sure I wanna fly that far. We had also talked about us going to Las Vegas and staying at the Wynn hotel. I don’t know if any of this will happen but I’m glad that we’re back talking. I had missed him. He missed me too. I think it just goes to show that when you’ve known somebody two years and you care for them, silly, stupid arguments can be forgiven and forgotten.

I have lost 95 lbs. alt0gether this first year.  I am hoping to get and stay around 130-140.  It’s been a wild roller coaster that I would do all over again.  I’m very happy with my year at this and I think the future looks good….

]]> https://olderprofessional.com/12-19-22-gastric-bypass-7/feed/ 0 19685 https://olderprofessional.com/75-lbs-25-to-go/ https://olderprofessional.com/75-lbs-25-to-go/#respond Mon, 13 Mar 2023 21:17:45 +0000 https://olderprofessional.com/?p=20973 https://olderprofessional.com/75-lbs-25-to-go/feed/ 0 20973 https://olderprofessional.com/2-3-23-gastric-bypass-8/ https://olderprofessional.com/2-3-23-gastric-bypass-8/#respond Fri, 03 Feb 2023 15:01:19 +0000 https://olderprofessional.com/?p=19789 Well, I’m finally to the point where I know what foods I can’t eat, I know what foods are best for me to eat and I’ve lost 57 pounds. And I’m starting to date.