When men can’t perform the way they think they should, they get very discouraged. And once that discouragement sets in, it’s like a switch flips—suddenly, the session feels over. There’s not much I can do at that point to bring things back. The best I can offer is a warm, relaxing massage and my signature back tickle.

It may not be what they came for, but it’s still something special. Honestly, my back tickle is an experience in and of itself—most people have never had anything like it. But I know that’s not what’s on their mind when they book the appointment.

Still, I want to be clear: it’s not my fault, and it’s not theirs either. It’s almost always due to nerves, ED, or both. Erectile dysfunction can start around age 48, and by the late 50s, it’s incredibly common. There are lots of things that can help with ED, but that’s not what this blog is about.

What I want to say is: it’s normal to feel discouraged the first time you see an escort. It’s nerve-racking! I do my best to help you feel calm and comfortable, but sometimes it’s just hard to relax—especially when you’re putting pressure on yourself.

And I really believe that if you’re not going to feel comfortable with me, you’re probably not going to feel comfortable with anyone. That’s why I always say: find someone you like and stick with them. It’s easier, safer, and just makes everything better.

I’ve had a few appointments lately where I know the client left feeling disappointed. Mostly disappointed in themselves, but maybe a little in me, too. And that hurts. I’m disappointed, too—mostly because I know I probably won’t see them again. And even though I did everything I could, it still feels like I failed.

But I know I didn’t. And still… it stings.

I guess it just is what it is.

When I first got to Kansas City, I kept the same rates—and, oh boy, I was seeing seven people a day. That pace got me a reputation as high-volume, and I really didn’t like that. So I bumped up my rates to $100 for a half hour and $150 for an hour. That helped. I felt better about the work and who I was seeing.

As I got more popular, I raised my rates again—to $100/$175, and not long after that, $100/$180. I kept those rates throughout my time in Raytown in 2018. When I moved to my current place, I went up again to $120/$200, and stayed there for a solid five years. Then in February 2024, I made another adjustment: $120/$220. And that’s where I am today.

I feel my rates are more than fair—for who I am, what I offer, how I look, and how I do things. Lately, my ad has been bringing in new people, and I’m realizing just how unique I am in this industry. A lot of men tell me they’ve never experienced anything like what I offer. Certainly not with an escort.

Recently, I met with another provider who advertises on Tryst.link. She charges $300 an hour but only makes about a third of what I do, so she reached out for advice. I suggested she lower her donation. Not to be harsh, but she’s 46—not that it’s old, but in this business, it matters—and she isn’t particularly striking. She wears too much makeup, and her apartment was small, cluttered, and honestly, kind of a mess. But that’s not unusual in this field. A lot of providers are hot messes, unfortunately.

That said, she’s not on drugs, she’s sweet, and she’s cute underneath all that makeup. She’s also very accommodating. But a lot of her choices are driven by fear—especially living on the Kansas side, where law enforcement can be intense. She hasn’t been busted since 2020, and I tried to reassure her that simply posting an ad isn’t what gets you busted. It doesn’t work that way. Her issue was putting sex and money in the same text message—you just can’t do that.

She also told me you can’t be paid cash for anything in Overland Park, which I honestly find ridiculous. If anyone out there knows something I don’t, feel free to enlighten me.

Another thing she didn’t realize: if you say you’re available 24/7, people will assume you’re on meth. I mean, how else would you be up at 3am ready to go? Maybe I’m wrong, but I doubt it.

She also negotiated her rate with almost everyone, which I think is a mistake. If you set a rate, stick to it. Specials are one thing, but constant haggling means you don’t really have a rate. Personally, I never negotiate. It’s just something I won’t do.

I told her I’d refer some people her way in the evenings, since I don’t see clients then—but that’s about the extent of it.

• The only cop that will ever bust you is an undercover police person, and they will never tell you if they are a cop or not. So there’s no reason to ask a provider if they are a cop.

• Never talk about sex on text. You can talk about money. But you cannot talk about sex and money.

• If you want to verify if a provider is a cop or not, ask her to show you her boob or kiss you, because no female cop will do that.

• If a provider asks you what you like to do sexually, this could be a way of getting you to talk about sex. Do not go there, whether over a text or in person.

• Your best bet is to see a provider at either a house, or an apartment as the police do not use these to do stings.

Most men who see an escort don’t expect to connect. They don’t expect warmth. They don’t expect to feel anything beyond the surface.

And that, right there, is where I change everything.

I don’t just provide an experience—I create a moment in time that lingers. A moment where a man, maybe for the first time in a long time, feels seen. Feels held. Feels like more than just another transaction.

I raise the bar, and here’s how:

I bring authenticity into every encounter.

A lot of women in this industry treat it like a job—and I get that. They clock in, they do the bare minimum, and they clock out. No kissing, no cuddling, no warmth. Just mechanics.

That’s not me. That’s never been me.

I engage. I listen. I make eye contact that isn’t just for show—I see the man in front of me, and I let him feel that. Because for so many men, real intimacy isn’t something they get at home. It’s not something they even know they’re missing until they feel it again.

I give men permission to be vulnerable.

You’d be amazed at what men will share when they feel safe enough to do so. Stories about their childhood, their marriages, their regrets, their dreams.

Most people don’t ask them real questions. Most people don’t lean in and really listen.

But I do.

And that’s why men come back—not just for the physical experience, but because, for an hour or two, they don’t have to pretend to be someone else. They don’t have to perform. They can just be.

I make intimacy about more than sex.

Let’s be honest—sex is easy. Real intimacy? That’s rare.

I kiss. I touch. I hold. I let moments breathe.

So many men go their entire lives without experiencing that kind of closeness. And when they do? It changes them. Because even if they can’t put it into words, they feelthe difference.

Why does this matter?

Because men aren’t taught how to ask for emotional connection. They’re told to toughen up, to push their feelings down, to never need anyone.

And then they meet me.

And suddenly, for an hour, they’re not just another guy moving through the motions. They’re someone. They’re seen.

And that? That’s why I do what I do. That’s why I’m successful. That’s why I stand apart.

I don’t just provide an experience.

I give men something real.

And that’s what keeps them coming back.

If you’ve never experienced, just pure cuddling for cuddling sake, it’s really kind of wonderful. Add in my back tickles and you’ve got a recipe for extreme comfort.  Cuddycan also be very healing. I’m hoping my clients come away feeling warm, understood, and completely cared for. To me, this is just an extension of what I already do. You really should try it out.

All the guys that call and text and haven’t read my ad so they’re too young or inappropriate and I won’t see them.

All the times that someone makes an appointment and doesn’t show and doesn’t call or text to let me know that they can’t come. How hard is it to text somebody and say I’m sorry I have to cancel?

For all the spam texts that I get. I believe I get more spam because of my ads in this business.

All the guys who short me. I think from now on, I’m gonna count my money in front of them. That’s just utter bullshit. They know they’re shorting me because I asked for my donation and I state what that donation is when I ask for it.

All the guys who want me to do things that prostitutes do, like car dates. I will never do a car date.

All the guys that want me to come to their house and their house is disgusting when I get there. I no longer will go to people’s houses unless they tell me they’re perfectly clean. And even then I don’t really want to do out calls to residences.

For all the times that someone said hi and nothing else. I’m starting to think that these are escorts trying to see if I’m busy! Probably not but you never know.

I remember being a social worker and there was a lot of bullshit in that job too. I guess there’s bullshit everywhere. Today I got a call from someone asking about my sex ad and saying that I could still be saved. I think I’ll end with that.

I am in the process of uploading all of my videos and pictures to Many Vids.  I should have it complete this week!  Many Vids has the same type of subscription service as Only Fans, but you can also buy videos from my store or inquire about a custom video.  I’m starting to get a lot of inquiries about this. 

My ID on Many Vids is @olderprofessional. And here is a link:

Http://olderprofessional.manyvids.com

5/4/24 April

I wrote in my schedule book at the end of April “thank God April is over”. And the main reason that I wrote, that was because April was a difficult month for me. At the beginning of this year, I started writing a little list for every week that was entitled “week in review“. And here I would put three or four things that happened that week that were noteworthy. In April, I had a terrible bladder infection and then a terrible trip to Springfield while I had this bladder infection. My cat Catie left my house for 10 days. I lost my only fans account. And I pinched a nerve in my neck, causing me great pain. But, and here is why I I do my weekly review, because then I have evidence of all the good and bad things that have happened. So looking back, I also had a great dinner with my girlfriends from Topeka, I found my cat after 10 days, I met some guys off of Match, and I made over $10,000 in the month of April. My mind will typically go to the bad stuff, but there is also good stuff and I need to remember that. I’m going to keep doing my week in review to remind me that there is no month that is all bad or all good. I just hate that all or nothing thinking. That’s my left brain at work!

Only fans has decided to delete my account because I have broken their terms of service. Now every time they told me, I broke their terms of service I made reparations and I thought I was OK. Until yesterday. I am working on getting my videos off of there , because I don’t have them saved anywhere else. I might try to get another account through someone else. I’m sure if I bribed my son, he probably would let me. but it’s frustrating because until December when I started doing better, they never bothered me. Once I started getting popular, then they started bothering me. I’m appealing the decision, but I don’t feel confident that I will win.

4/23/24 My Miracle Catie Cat

Friday the 12th, when it was such a nice day, I opened all the windows in my house. My cat loves to jump up into the windowsills. One of the screens had popped off and she got out. She was gone for 10 days and I don’t think she ate a whole lot, but she must have gotten some water because she wouldn’t be alive. I looked and searched and put ads on the web, and she showed up in my crawlspace. I had never heard her cry until yesterday. I followed her cries to my crawlspace, which had ace kind of door on it that you could get into the crawlspace if you were small, but you couldn’t get out. So I got down into the crawlspace and called to her over and over because she was so scared. She finally came to me and I got her out. She was much thinner but still her old self. She’s been crying a little bit, which is not like her so I know she’s still kind of in shock. If cats can get PTSD, I think she has it, but I also think it will go away a lot quicker in a cat!  I’m so happy to have my baby home.

have decided to add Specific Girlfriend Services.  GFE Services will include daily emails/texts, phone calls, meet for a drink, discounts on sessions and pictures/videos customized to you!  I will have a section on my Donations Page…

4/21/24 OMG St. Louis

St. Louis never stops amazing me. Each time I go, I do better than the last time. Now, I did have three no-shows and one person threatened me, but other than that, this was the best trip I’ve ever had. I made more in two days than I make in a week and a half. But it’s not just about the money. It’s about seeing the same guys that I’ve seen in February and January and last November. I am developing a regular crowd there and I love it. I just wrote a blog about how nerve-racking it is to see new people, especially when I’m seeing so many new people in a day but now I’m not. And I just love that.  I will tell you this.  If Kansas City ever goes south, I could definitely see moving to St. Lou.

4/21/24 More Thoughts on My Gastric Bypass

It’s been a year and eight months since I got my gastric bypass. I have successfully lost 110 pounds and kept it off for six months. And I really don’t think that I’m going to regain my weight and I will tell you why. I still can only eat 4 to 6 bites at a time. And this is the most difficult part of having gotten the gastric bypass. They shrink your stomach so much that you can’t eat very much at one time and you don’t feel like eating for some time because your digestion has slowed. The problem becomes when you zone out while you’re eating and eat too much. OMG, I have never felt such pain in my stomach. And the difficulty lies in the fact that I used to eat a four course meal and now I’m lucky to eat a fourth of a course. It definitely makes going out to eat either a very slow process or a very frustrating one. If I take 30 minutes to eat my meal, I can eat more than a fourth of course. I can probably eat one course. But the food gets cold. Which, I’ve gotten used to, I have to say. 

So now you know how I maintain my weight. And on top of that, there are some days that I just don’t feel like eating. And the only thing that helps with that is to get high because marijuana numbs your stomach. It’s great for when you have the stomach flu and when you don’t feel like eating. Because it takes the pain and nausea away. I’m sure most people reading this are not feeling too bad for me. But if you saw me after I ate 10 bites instead of six, you would see someone in pretty intense pain. It seems like anytime I put food on my plate, I pretty much know I’m going to only eat half of it. Which can make for a very cheap date! I’m still really happy that I had the gastric bypass and even though I have had so many complications from it, I’m past all that and I feel like I’ve finally arrived.

I don’t tend to judge people anymore who are overweight. I simply say a little prayer to myself that they will find their way to a gastric bypass.  I bought a really cute mini dress in St. Louis and I just reveled at how adorable I looked! My sister said to me that I looked really good and I told her that I looked really good in clothes and she replied “that’s all there is at our age”! I suppose she’s somewhat right.